"For My thoughts are not your thoughts, neither are your ways My ways," declares the LORD' (Isaiah 55:8).
As Christians -- God's spokesmen in this world -- we should not be going about encroaching our personal opinions and ensuing advice within terms such as: "God told me......" or "I think God wants me to say to you......" In other words, we should not be giving what most would consider to be a 'backhanded' compliment in God's name to others -- especially in our own desire to bring about some type of behavior or action more inline with what we or the general consensus thinks it should be. That has a name as well; it's called manipulation.
manipulate: verb, 2. To influence or manage shrewdly or deviously: He manipulated her opinion in his favor.
What's more, I used to think that 'backhanded' as it refers to a compliment was just something akin to us country folks talking; but it is actually a word. I looked it up. Here is what the dictionary has to say about this word:
backhanded: adjective
2. Oblique or roundabout: a backhanded compliment.
3. oblique or ambiguous in meaning: a backhanded compliment.

To use any of these techniques, at least where I come from, would be considered and insulting injury. And while God very well may speak metaphorically with us,
"God
" does not inspire us to give backhanded compliments and neither does He deal with us deviously through manipulation. That is something we do. And it is most damaging, in many ways, to those we attempt to
'help' with this tactic.
Every human on planet earth is made in God's image and likeness; therefore we should be imitators of God in all of our interactions with others. And how does God move people from His total acceptance to His agreement? As Matthew Henry says in one of his commentary notes: "That which comes from the Love of God, has the grace" and mercy "of God for its companion." It's HIS love which reveals to one their value and worth, moving them in the direction
HE desires for them.
God loves people where they are at, just as they are and that love is the deposit which gives place to His speaking into their life being heard, resulting in a favorable and desirable response without needless insult nor injury to
His beloved!
So next time -- you want to tell Jane that her make-up looks like a clown at the circus or John that he really should try to get something that will clear all those pimples -- don't encroach it within God language: e.g. "I think God wants me to tell you that your natural beauty is what He loves best, or...etcetera, etcetra."
How about this:
Just keep it to yourself. Instead, try sincerely loving people, big, fat, white, purple, warts, pimples, heavy make-up and all, giving them your open armed acceptance; and THEN you can speak into their life your opinion --
IF they ask you! -- without scapegoating God and causing needless injury to others.
#love, #acceptance, and #othering.